Wednesday, 1 April 2009
OMG You're sooo short!!
Tuesday, 31 March 2009
Hit The Road Jack
So a quick life update. Yes you did read correctly..I was kicked out of the parental home...LITERALLY! So I've now moved to an area full of Old Age Pensioners and the typical family unit of 2.4 children. It's weird, but I'm closer to one of my best friends which is always good.
Let me explain the situation. I was asked for some money, I didn't have it. We argued. I threatened to leave. The mother said get out then. The end.
So I sat down one day thinking about how my life has turned out and how I possibly could've changed it. I only lived with my mother (parents seperated a while back now) and as a pair, we had been through A LOT together.
We both supported each other in difficult times. We both stayed up till 4am talking and having heart to hearts and crying (with bottles of wine surrounding us). We also had a lot of fun together as mother and son. My mother is like a sister to me.
So now she has kicked me out. Permanently. Which is a scary thought. I told my best friend about the situation and he said to me that I should cut my mum out of my life. I disagreed. He then said that I'm acting like a child and I'm "waiting to crawl back to mummy". Yes what she has done is not nice AT ALL, but my mother is not cruel. She raised me for most of my life. I never wanted for anything in my life either. I can't just cut her off like that. Our friendship was almost over because of the conversation (there was a lot more to it).
My friend seems to think that me cutting my mother out of my life will help me to stand on my own two feet. Yes it would help me, but the fact of the matter is she is my mother. I've lived with her for most of my 21 years of life and she means the world to me. And I only get one mother.
Am I wrong in thinking like that? Is my friend right in thinking that I'm acting like a child? Am I just looking for sympathy? I don't think this is the case. What I merely need from my friends at a time like this is support.
And since this has happened, my mother and I are now on talking terms. I'm actually at the house right now and I'm staying for the night before going back to West London. Our relationship is still the same in the sense that we get on, however we have given eachother space.
I don't know what to think about the situation. Have you ever been through a similar situation? Have you done what my friend suggested and cut certain family members out of your life? What makes it so easy for you to do that??
Fingers hurt now from typing I think, but I needed to get it all off my chest!
Saturday, 14 March 2009
Too Honest With Yourself??
I've always wondered about this. If you can ever be too honest with yourself. You know how I mean. For example, you finally admit to yourself, the feelings you have for a certain someone. But you don't want to admit it really, and you end up getting hurt. That theory of "wearing your heart on your sleeve". I say this because many times have I admitted things to myself and regret ever thinking about it. It just messes with my head and something happens for me to get hurt. This is a short one, but maybe sometimes it's best to keep some of these thoughts to the back of your mind? Had you not admitted these feelings, could things have been different? Can being too honest with yourself, somehow make matters so much harder for you?
Thursday, 12 March 2009
Friends Seem to Come and Go
I've heard from friends that I haven't heard from in a long long time, which is fantastic. But I've also felt like I'm loosing some friends. Friends that mean the world to me. Friends that I would do anything for. And it was today while YouTube-ing away that I found this video below, and for some reason really touched my heart. We all have close friends. But in your time of need, who is the one that is really there?
Tuesday, 10 March 2009
How gay is G-A-Y??
But my god! How camp is it?! I walked in there and was accosted by a load of screaming queens! Now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against feminine/camp guys...they've got more balls than I have to be the way they are in public. But seriously, I've been going to G-A-Y for a long time now and it only just hit me, as to how properly gay it is!
It seems that people fall into 4 categories in this place..
A) Screaming queen, with a man bag, and enough make up to get it under your fingernails and knows every dance move to a Steps video.
B) The fag hag. Dressed like she's on the pull (in a gay bar???) and seems to love every gay boy who walks past her. .(for any Americish people here, if you're wondering what a fag hag is, just think of Grace from Will and Grace!
C) The "straight acting" gay guy who wants to be there, but doesn't quite want to show that he's enjoying himself too much.
And last but not least, D) Lesbians. Nothing much to say after that.
I'm kind of slowly but gradually being put off the gay scene in London. I like a gay venue, because I like to be able to think that I can kiss the guy I'm with (if I get the urge) without getting silly looks from the straights. But it seems like any decent gay venue is either too expensive (you'd have to re-mortgage your house to have a decent night out), or they're closing down!.
Time Out Magazine recently named Vauxhall as "London's hedonist hotspot": "For all the debauchery-friendly criteria it meets, Vauxhall is no longer home to London's hip gay dance scene", decent venue's like Soho's Profile are soon to close down. The gay scene is slowly becoming a very small, concentrated area, known as G-A-Y.
So I make it my mission. To find at least 3 decent venues in London, where I am not surrounded by screaming queens or fag hags, I can hear myself speak and don't have to worry about some drunk little boy spilling his drink over me.
This is going to be one HELL of a mission!
Monday, 9 March 2009
OK I Lied..
YouTube to Take Down Official UK Music Videos
Videos are being blocked starting from today so by tomorrow, they will be no more. YouTube which is owned by search engine Google, says that the move is "regrettable". So regrettable that they're going to do it anyway!
So this is it. The end of it all. Us music video watchers are going to have to find somewhere else to watch these videos. When you do find one, let me know where!!.
And just for you guys, I have decided to put up a music video (while we still can!).
Enjoy!!
Sunday, 8 March 2009
Well this is a film!
OK, so I watched an amazing film last night. A German film actually. Never been one for German films, but this one got my attention.
Summer Storm ('Sommersturm') is a German coming-of-age film written and directed by Marco Kruezpaintner, starring Robert Stadlober. The film chronicles a week in a rowing regatta where the main character, Tobi (Stadlober) questions the depth of his feelings for best friend Achim (Kostja Ullmann) whilst attempting to juggle a "normal" relationship with girlfriend Anke (Alicja Bachleda-Curus). Tobi's confusion is exacerbated with the arrival of rowing team 'The Queerstrokes', who are all out and proud, and an impending summer storm.u
Despite an occasional music video feel, specifically a cheesy music sequence of the landscape, Kruezpaintner employs some rather striking shots in the film. From a fallen tree, literally isolating Tobi from everyone; to Tobi letting loose and jumping off a lake dock, and, to the actual 'summer storm', Kruezpaintner displays intelligent visual metaphors for the internal confusion and fear that builds up within Tobi.
Even more impressive are the performances, with Stadlober perhaps channelling his own experiences (he is openly bisexual) into the difficult, and sometimes selfish, character of Tobi. Also notable is Marlon Kittel's courageous and poignant performance as Leo, the 'Queerstrokes' member who helps Tobi accept his sexuality.
What is most surprising about Summer Storm, however, is how it is perhaps aimed just as much towards Queer Film Festival critics as it is to teens. It is both a teen dramedy with honest performances and sensitive direction, and a foreign art-house flick housing a killer soundtrack and frat-boy culture.
All involved should be congratulated on presenting a film that is both honest with the psyche of homosexual teenagers, whilst still accessible enough to appeal to most (mature) audiences. A definite winner!
Friday, 6 March 2009
Shunned, Shunned and shunned again...
I'm an Addict!
Ha, knew that would get your attention. But seriously I think I have an addiction. To the net! So I've been "net-less" for about 2 weeks. The only access I had was through my phone to go on MSN, but that was actually a waste of time as I kept getting cut off every 5 minutes.
I have felt SOO cut off from the world it's unreal! How on earth did we survive without the internet? Before the net it was phonecalls, letters oh and actually seeing people.
I have a friend (yes I do have them), well actually a best friend; I have withdrawal symptoms when I don't speak to him for a few days. He was meant to call me one day, and then another day, and then another. I didn't hear from him. I then speak to him online on the rare day that my phone decides to connect and he says "I'm not a phone person". Not a phone person??? What's that all about?? How do "non-phone" people survive? How did they survive when they couldn't text or email or facebook? Have you noticed that nowadays when you go out and meet someone, it's never "What's your phone number?" it's now "What's your Fcebook/Twitter/GaydarMyspace/Email?" the list goes on!.
I have a feeling that in a few generations time, the world will be full of "non-phone" people and phones will be nothing but a time in history.
I found myself getting almost depressed because I couldn't catch up on the latest satus updates of my "friends" on Facebook. I couldn't check my emails, and of course I couldn't write on my blog! So I've now admitted to myself that I am an addict. I've made the first step to a recovery.
I've decided that it's time for me to find something else to fill my time with other than just the net! If the whole net decides to just die one day what on earth would we do at 2 o'clock on a Wednesday night?
So I decided to go through my collection of books. Some I completed, some that look like they should still be on the shelf in the store I bought it in and some that I got bored off at the penultimate chapter. So that is now my new hobby. Reading. I aim to read a book a week (maybe more). I have so many books that I need to delve into, that it should stop me from being addicted to this thing they call the net!
I just hope I don't end up with yet another vice and then loose all control!
Friday, 27 February 2009
Thursday, 19 February 2009
You Guys Will Probably Hate me After This.
She has cancer and got it real bad at a hell of a young age. I 100% sympathise with that. She's leaving behind 2 VERY young children who are not going to have their mother with them. I have nothing but sympathy for the situation.
As anyone else would be, she has decided she wants to make the best future for her children and continue working. Since appearing on Big Brother in 2002, she has been known as a British Celebrity (yes she might be a Z- lister, but a celebrity all the same). So being on TV I guess is the only way she knows how to make money. She has decided to document her illness on TV.
However, do not push your illness in the face of so many other cancer sufferers, who have not got the ability, contacts or money to hire Max Clifford (who evidently I cannot stand) and invite press to come visit them in hospital, and then sell your story to the highest bidder. Yes I salute her for continuing to work as many other cancer sufferers wouldn't work, but I just feel it is ever so tacky and offensive to those of us who just have to live with what we have.
The celebrity culture is exploited so much, that it gets to the point, where people seem to become completely irrational. This stunt being one of them.
I was watching Richard and Judy today (ssshh, they're good!!!) and Max Clifford was being interviewed on there, and I could seriously tell, that what he was saying was all completely scripted and was another PR campaign for him. It drove me insane!.
Many people have said things against Jade's actions, however they are being slated all over the place for having their views, which brings me onto my next point.
Before Jade Goody was known as the celebrity as cancer, she was known as Jade Goody the racist girl with the unsuccessful business and a kebab. It's funny how the moment someone becomes ill, the sun shines out of their a**. People should not have to change their opinion about someone, because they are ill. People used to call ehr a media whore. Is this not a prime example of it? You may think I'm cold hearted and have no feelings whatsoever, but believe me I do. Like I said, I have every bit of sympathy for her and her family, but what I do not appreciate is exploitation of media and celebrity culture, to persuade the way in which we feel.
She says she is doing this also to raise awareness of cervical cancer. Great idea! 20% more women have gone to hospitals for screening since Jade went public. If it's for awareness, do you really need to sell EVERY story to the highest bidder everytime. Yes make money for your kids and family. But do not take the piss.
I have had people in my family die of cancer. My grandmother has suffered from it for the past 28 years. And hell it's hard to watch people go through the problems and side effects they have to go through, so I feel for the family and everyone I really do.
But Jade, live the final months of your life with dignity and enjoy what you have with your children and soon to be husband. Reflect on the good times you have had together. Embrace every moment you have with your kids. Don't a) tire yourself out from all the work you are doing, b) miss out on quality time with the children and c) exploit the media and society the way you are. Thank you for raising awareness of cervical cancer, I'm sure you've saved many lives. But I'm sure you've also made a damn lot of money. Enough is enough, don't you think?.
It's things like the video below, that really does need to be dealt with on a personal basis. There's enough "normal mortals out there dealing with the same situation without it being pushed straight back into our faces again.
WARNING: This video, is actually quite emotional. Even brought a tear to my eye.
Wednesday, 18 February 2009
And the Winners Are....
Here are the winners for this year's Brit Awards, held at London's Earls Court on 18 February. (Winners in bold)
Best British male
Ian Brown
James Morrison
The Streets
Paul Weller
Will Young
Best British female
Adele
Beth Rowley
Duffy
Estelle
MIA
Best British group
Coldplay
Elbow
Girls Aloud
Radiohead
Take That
Best British live act
Coldplay
Elbow
Iron Maiden
Scouting For Girls
The Verve
Best British single
Coldplay - Viva La Vida
Duffy - Mercy
Girls Aloud - The Promise
Leona Lewis - Better in Time
Scouting for Girls - Heartbeat
Best British Album
Coldplay - Viva La Vida or Death And All His Friends
Duffy - Rockferry
Elbow - The Seldom Seen Kid
Radiohead - In Rainbows
The Ting Tings - We Started Nothing
Best British breakthrough act
Adele
Duffy
Last Shadow Puppets
Scouting For Girls
The Ting Tings
Best international album
AC/DC - Black Ice
Fleet Foxes - Fleet Foxes
Killers - Day & Age
Kings of Leon - Only By The Night
MGMT - Oracular Spectacular
Best international male
Beck
Neil Diamond
Jay-Z
Kanye West
Seasick Steve
Best international female
Beyonce
Gabriella Cilmi
Katy Perry
Pink
Santogold
Best international group
AC/DC
Fleet Foxes
Killers
Kings of Leon
MGMT
Critics' Choice: Florence and the Machine
Outstanding Contribution To Music: Pet Shop Boys.Duffy Duffy Duffy. I really don't like your songs. Seriously. And I honestly think that you winning 3 awards is going to drive Estelle and Adele up the wall! You caused enough arguments last time you won something. Just stop singing so damn much! You actually sound like a 5 year old child when you sing and it's quite scary. Saying this, no one can complain for her winning what she has won. These awards are apparently voted for by the general public, which would therefore mean that the big bosses at the Brits have NOTHING to do with the final result..YA THINK????!!! .
Below, is a video of the most fantastic PSB (Pet Shop Boys that is!). They performed a medley of some rather fantastic tunes and were joined by the upcoming sensation the is Lady Gaga and by the kind of good looking Brandon Flower (what a surname!). Saying this, I have no idea why there were there! They sang the same 4 words, 3 times and that was it :-/. But anyway an outstanding performance from PSB (who incidentally, have had 39 top 30 singles, 22 top ten hits in the UK, oh and4 number ones) and a well deserved award.
And The Nominees For The Brits 2009 are...
Best British male
Ian Brown
James Morrison
The Streets
Paul Weller
Will Young
Best British female
Adele
Beth Rowley
Duffy
Estelle
MIA
Best British group
Coldplay
Elbow
Girls Aloud
Radiohead
Take That
Best British live act
Coldplay
Elbow
Iron Maiden
Scouting For Girls
The Verve
Best British single
Coldplay - Viva La Vida
Duffy - Mercy
Girls Aloud - The Promise
Leona Lewis - Better in Time
Scouting for Girls - Heartbeat
Best British Album
Coldplay - Viva La Vida or Death And All His Friends
Duffy - Rockferry
Elbow - The Seldom Seen Kid
Radiohead - In Rainbows
The Ting Tings - We Started Nothing
Best British breakthrough act
Adele
Duffy
Last Shadow Puppets
Scouting For Girls
The Ting Tings
Best international album
AC/DC - Black Ice
Fleet Foxes - Fleet Foxes
Killers - Day & Age
Kings of Leon - Only By The Night
MGMT - Oracular Spectacular
Best international male
Beck
Neil Diamond
Jay-Z
Kanye West
Seasick Steve
Best international female
Beyonce
Gabriella Cilmi
Katy Perry
Pink
Santogold
Best international group
AC/DC
Fleet Foxes
Killers
Kin
MGMT
Critics' Choice: Florence and the Machine
Outstanding Contribution To Music: Pet Shop BoysThe RETURN of the Routemaster!!!
I was reading my best friend's blog Make A Bus earlier, and he mentioned that the Routemaster, one thing that represented London so well, is to make a return by 2011. And so it should I say! I refer you back to an old blog of mine, about my nightmare on the BENDY BUS, or as Ka-os calls it, the free bus.
As convenient as these buses were for the wheelchair users,as well as mothers with space ships for pushchairs, oh and how can we forget the fair jumping scum of society, it was actually the most annoying bus for the majority of the public - NON BUS USERS INCLUDED! You can't cross the road because the bus decides to rest it's 18 meter long self across the pedestrian crossing. It causes one hell of a traffic jam, because it crosses a whole damn junction Not only is this bus a nuisance, it is also one dangerous vehicle, let me tell you.
According to a report by TfL to the London Assembly, bendy buses cause 5.6 pedestrian injuries per million miles operated (and lets face it, a bus probably operates a damn load of miles), compared with just 2.6 for all other buses. They're involved in more "collisions" with cyclists than other buses and have more accidents generally than bigger buses.
This bendy bus is probably one thing making the least amount of revenue for the city, due to it's inconvenience and danger to London.
So moan over about the bendy bus and HOORAY for the Routemaster and well done Boris (although we all know you're trying to steal some political points here). The routemaster is so good in many ways. It takes up less damn space for one! And it also gives me a laugh when the stupid school kids think they look uber cool (I love the word uber right now!) jumping off the bus before it hits the bus stop, and they end up falling on their face.
Now who's the idiot you mongrel - go home and do whatever it is you kids do these days!.
It's harsh, I know, but something has to keep my day going!
Monday, 16 February 2009
ADAM KHADAROO
She's so Controversial! But I Love it!
But a friend of mine told me to listen to the words and I'd love it, and low and behold, I do.
Little Lily (I had to type her name 5 times before I spelt it correctly by the way) was born to be controversial. She literally doesn't give a s***. It's great!
Ladies, gents, and others, I give you The Fear
Sunday, 15 February 2009
Apparently I'm Racist
Bare with me on this one. My friend then asked me why, and the honest straight forward answer, is because I don't find many black men attractive. I just haven't got a physical preference to all black men. Someway, somehow, my friend decided that I was racist.
I laughed at the comment and carried on chatting, but it has kind of disturbed me a bit and got me a little angry. It's not the first time I've heard someone say it to me either. In fact some people have said to me that I'm not racist, I'm hypocritical and not proud of my heritage.
Now, I am very proud of my heritage, but sleeping or going out with someone of my colour, does not define me as a person. I do not need to sleep with someone of my colour to prove that pride or to prove myself to anyone.
I guess I'm just writing this to get my anger out and to say how much it annoyed me once I had realised what he had said.
So, do my thoughts make me a racist? A hypocrite? A bounty? Am I not proud of my heritage and culture? Is it not just down to personal preference and personal observations?? And is the fact that I find the look of black skin against white skin oh so sexy a bad thing??!!!!
Who would've known!
Apparently one of his friends had it tattooed on his arm last week, and now my friend is reluctant to stay friendly with him. It spurred me on to do some research on what exactly the Swastika is meant to represent, and to be honest it came up with some rather interesting facts about the symbol.
We all know that the Swastika is a VERY powerful symbol. Used by the Nazis to murder millions of people and to promote their beliefs. However for centuries before this, it was a positive symbol. So what is this history of the Swastika? And what does it represent today to people? Good or evil??..
In the 1800s, countries around Germany were getting bigger and becoming empires, yet Germany was not unified until 1871. To counter the stigma of youth, nationalists in Germany used the Swastika, as it had India/Aryan origins, to represent Germanic/Aryan history.
Then Hitler came along. And in wanting to keep a Germanic/Aryan history and race, he used the Swastika as a symbol to represent his beliefs and to represent "Germany's struggle". This in turn has caused the symbol to have negative effects on the world.
(Left, the Swastika as used by Hitler and his Nazi regime)
Now some people have said to me that as the symbol was originally used for peace and used by many Buddhists, Buddhists, should the symbol as their own and attempt to repatriate it to its original meaning -for example, gay people use the rainbow flag or the pink triangle.
Now I have to disagree with this argument. Whatever it's history, it is remembered by the generation of today and yesteryear as "Nazi", "Holocaust" and many other negative terms.
The fact that the Nazis had such a big impact on the world, as far as I'm concerned means they have redefined the symbol. You can't reclaim the symbol of the whole regime - what would it be signifying? The pink triangle you can (although I'm not really very keen on it), because it's a symbol of the oppressed, not the oppressor. (For those of you who don't know, the pink triangle was used in Nazi camps to identify homosexuals)
The pink triangle, used in concentration camps to identify homosexuals.
Lets use an AWFUL AWFUL analogy here: A black man may call himself or his black friends nigger, but he is not going to walk around wearing KKK emblems is he??
There'll no doubt be a difference based on where you are in the world too. If it's a Buddhist symbol then it'll be seen differently in a part of the world with a Buddhist tradition. Europe isn't one of them, hardly anyone had seen it before Germany started to use it, so that's what it means here.Even if it was another symbol, I'd be a bit suspicious of a religious symbol being used (I'm guessing) outside the religion. In which case you could justify it by saying it just looked nice, but I'm also guessing the religious stuff will be used to justify a swastika. People's reactions to "oh, I just like it" about a swastika would be interesting though, don't you think???
Monday, 9 February 2009
A Media Rant!
I It got me thinking…We all know that newspapers love to sensationalise and sometimes mislead their consumers…how do they get away with it??? Is this the unfortunate cost of press freedom?? What are the arguments FOR press freedom?? In terms of arguments for, a lot of media savvy’s (snotty b*****ds i like to call them) think that press freedom equates to the right of self expression…great!! fantastic!! If we never had that right, I would not be able to air my views like I am now. However…as far as I’m concerned, you cannot apply this theory to that of powerful insitutions like Rupert Murdoch’s News Corp (sorry Rupert, I know you own this site, but you know I’m right ). If you’re going to apply something like that to insitutions, then consider this…as individuals, we are powerless and we can do harm if we are careless about our accuracy.
We don’t allow major companies like Sainsbury’s or British Airways to be inaccurate about their products.
However there are even laws for us against slander, inciting hatred and libel. Now if insitutions like the media were casual about accuracy, it can cause a great load of damage to the reputation of individuals and to that of large insitutions and communities. If the powerful conglomerates of the media today had unconditional freedom of speech, they would easily be able to be inaccuracies, causing great damage to others and therefore undermining democracy…so all that rubbish about press freedom being like freedom of speech is frankly UNREAL…i don’t care how fashionable it is!
Speaking of democracy..again the media savvy’s think that press freedom appeals to the needs of democracy…again…and to be honest ..think about it…democracy would needs a press that can inform it’s citizens ACCURTAELY! And of course if requirements for accuracy were too tightly drawn then frankly think the press would be intimidated. And no one can be sure of getting everything correct even with the zealous “Fact-checking”… Frankly I think that the whole press freedom thing is unjustified! The government have a HUGE influence over the media (which i hope we all know)…and personally, I think that the press is there, to help the government influence the way in which society develops…as the views and morals of the government and the press changes so will the minds of some individuals (i.e those who rely on nothing but the press for their facts!).
However, I would like to think that society is developed enough to be able to have their own views, opinions and morals in life! Why should we have to live life the way society expects us to!?! We are afterall INDIVIDUALS!! Slightly of track there, but hey..I’M RANDOM!! :D
Tuesday, 27 January 2009
OK....I'M BACK
I haven't actually got an excuse for not keeping you people updated. I've just been lazy. Sorry.
So I guess we have a lot to catch up on don't we? Well not a lot has happened really. Christmas came, it went. New Years came, it went. Winter came...and is STILL here like a bad smell!.
But fear not! The cold winter season will soon end (thank god) and to be honest some good things have happened...GOODBYE BUSH...HELLO OBAMA! (Can you tell I didn't quite like Bush?).
Interest rates went down to an all time low! Horray for spenders, BOO for savers!
I actually can't think of anything else good that happened! Lots of sad things have happened, but I don't really want to go through sad things on my blog.
But anyway, I'm back fresh and with a mission! To speak to you guys more! Keep in touch people and we'll go from here! Lets see what fun we get up to eh?! ;-)